The Universal Appeal of Empathy

Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all born with an innate sense of empathy? I’ve been thinking about this question a lot recently  as I’ve been watching old episodes of Star Trek: The Next Generation.  The Enterprise’s counselor, Deanna Troi, was quite literally b
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Listening with our whole selves

As the Dr. Phil program returned from an ad, the producers played a clip of a woman complaining about another woman whom she had tried to have in her life as a friend. The woman said that she had tried to talk to her friend when her own daughter was being diagnosed with epilepsy, but
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Character Sought in College Admissions

I am an Episcopal clergyman who wrote, what seems on the surface, to be a totally secular book called What You Don’t know Can Keep You Out Of College (Penguin/Gotham 2007).  I once served as a college counselor at Phillips Academy, Andover during which time I spent many hours in
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Speaking the truth in love

I stood in the sacristy while the parishioner railed at me, hurling verbal assaults that drove at me like torpedoes shot out from a submarine – blast, blast, blast, blast, blast.  I remember standing in that room many years ago, the woman, the blacktop counter to my right, the brown w
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Community at a Local Restaurant

You hear the voices first. The voices welcoming you into Hemingway’s Bar and Grill on the square in Marietta, GA. Your eyes are adjusting to the sudden darkness after coming in from the outside, but you hear the servers and management staff saying “hello” and telling
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A Different Kind of Leader

Servant-leadership is not just a philosophy; it is a way of life. As with any discipline, it requires practice and skill development.  It is akin to learning a new language: Once you have the basics, you have access to another world.  Some of those skills include active listening; the
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Servant-Leadership and Parenting

I read a line once in the classic parenting tome, “Dr. Spock’s Baby and Childcare,” about handling a two-year-old, and I think about it regularly.   There were several pages on the joy and frustration that come with having a toddler, but one statement spoke to m
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Servant-Leadership on the College Campus

This season has been a busy time for servant-leadership on college campuses across the country.  In late February, the Gabriel Center facilitated an overnight retreat for LaGrange College’s Servant Fellows. I also had the pleasure of talking with the University of the South̵
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